There really are many approaches to parenting. Most of us have grown children with authoritative parents now, nobody knows "what I say and not what I do and" Because I Said So, why "type of parenting.
As new parents, we remember those years of frustration about what we, as parents, as without reflection. As adults, we read all the parenting books, parenting magazines we subscribe, we want the best parents we can be. We are organic, natural- Stay flexible and easy going. What's not to adore? We go around the world (and our parents just to prove) that the children with peaceful means, and loving kindness that we have all the answers before we have children, that is.
There is a child, maybe even a few. If you have a child calm when parenting is tempered slightly in normal cells that fit all the books talk about, and a liberal education does not work quite well. Positive Parenting pounds give wonderful examples of truethe perfectly docile with children.
But what the child busy? And the rebels, Adamant seems to pull the hair on your head? The child makes you ask "What have I done wrong" because it is so difficult. Have you ever thought that paternity can be so difficult, and sometimes you feel like you want to run away and hide all. You may be crying every day and you can ask God: "Why?" They never this!
You do not see any paternity error. You're tooshould be a wonderful mother, let Johnny have his freedom and think independently as individuals. They give explanations for everything you do to live democratically, but it feels as if it could your child's energy to overcome you at any given moment. He drags you around some shops and dates of play. You use the slick, you're at your wits end and want things to be different. But where are the real answers? How things change?
If it sounds like my experience, I speakClock.
I understood this when he was six months. It was not a normal child. I knew that day when I was called the Office of the Director for the day in a quick trip to the nest. I knew when I have a slight but constant fear of my heart, like my child would be about family, acting on and in public. Would decide to hear this morning? I would be able to "manage" today?
Once you have the habit of what I Loving Discipline Parents, your family will be transformed. At one point,under the natural tendency to permissive (because your personality flexible) means you must recognize that a healthy parent-child relationship, a strong sense of personal power. If your child is keen, we see that certainly has no problem with their sense of personal power, so why should it? Spirited children can teach us much.
My journey to a peaceful solution, has a low budget impact has been a long journey. But we arrived. When I started with the implementation of keyTeachings of Loving Discipline Parenting life turned around 180 degrees and everyone is happy. Our family bond has never been close and we enjoy every day. I some of the fundamental aspects of the discipline Loving Parenting now share with you.
First With The Law of Attraction, is a self-fulfilling prophecy. What do you think of your child, the role fulfilled. Think about and describe your relationship with your child honestly. Let it all out. And 'to things that are NOT OKOK. We must begin to confirm the current situation for healing. Start now, what will you see the results happen to think. Keep this image in your head as you continue to implement new forms of parenting. Just describe your child a positive impact on others and start looking at the positive aspects of the character of the child. This starts the default value for the new arrangements with your child. I'm surprised how often I see parents unwittingly (perhaps) like thisdifficult, their children are right in front of their children. What message do you think that sends the child? Children will not disappoint. Change the way you see the profile of your child and your relationship with your child, and then make changes.
According Set limits and keep them. This is particularly difficult for those of us parents who are so open and frank. We do not why we push our children to be? In fact, children in urgent need of borders. InSo that they feel safe, they must know that they are ultimately in control. You know they can strengthen and step depends on your defending something. What defense of laissez-faire? Need an example of a profound self-understanding of yourself, show your child the true meaning of this.
Third Give your child responsibilities. For us, the chart-starter responsible significance for the whole family, not just children. We must let go now, and thatMy children understand that we are a community, a family living together, and everyone in the field and help for the welfare of the community. Give children the responsibility of promoting growth and maturity. Children may complain as they are, means capable of value in a day's hard work. Show them the value of family and community to help. should help the family and asked. Buts.
Get off the fourth coloring food and unhealthy junk food. I do not focus enough on these issues. ManyThe children have behavioral responses to unhealthy food dyes and preservatives. These foods may not be aware of especially if the child is prone to this type of food on a daily basis. One can only imagine that your child has a problem of personality and he is a rebel or refuses to listen. dyes and preservatives are closely associated with ADHD symptoms. Darting eyes, no attention, lack of concentration or concentration: They are all made with food coloring and preservative allergic reactions. MySon made enormous progress with this one.
Fifth For each error, see your child find his opposite (for example, as the persistence in the real world, useful?) If you are frustrated, we tend to see more negative than positive, even when people are generally positive. Realize that this particular child that you will help you grow spiritually and emotionally, if you allow that growth to happen.
Sixth Just as respect for others, asking to be respected and that your child thanothers. This includes communication, word choice, listening to others, respect for others welfare and property. We must not give up, in this case. Children who do not respect their parents and other times at the end in very bad situations.
Seventh Sit down and talk with your child - explaining the changes your child needs an honest explanation for the changes to take place to go. Your child is intelligent. He knows things are out of control, he feels, has not yetIdea of how to do things better. He has long been feeling detection of rejection in one form or another for others and even you (looks frustrated, tears, sighs). You and your child is a team, there are a lot of 'love deep inside, and you do it to you through this. Their relationship will be improved and life is much better for everyone. Let your child know exactly what changes will take place and that, since we try to do something new, thehappier.
8th Know that after the novelty wears off, you continue with your consistency. Parenting is so. If you are and you give to be back to your liberal way of life as good as before. Your child will feel out of control again, and so we become. As healthy food, new habits must be constantly maintained in order for true sustainable advantage. But the good news is that you get to start over. The children are angry,can you say bad things .. But as long as you continue to use Parenting loving discipline, things will settle down and turn in the family life you have only dreamed of.
Ninth Respect comes naturally from a close relationship. If you currently do not have a close connection with her child, chances are, there is a lack of respect also. Get your child emotionally close and you will see that the whole stretch your child busy doing things I ask of him and is happy to help and listenyou. It is because the links with loves you, and we obviously hope that we like to be happy. Bond with the child includes things like reading stories together every day (no matter what age), the exchange of experience and review of the experience that really what your child is doing, and where are his interests and his feelings and thoughts on the account (what can not, however, that they normally).
10th Make your family and educationTheir children a priority in your life. Parents can be default or there may be a family trip to autoavvera. You want the second. Why let this opportunity pass for personal growth and enrichment for you? To maintain an emotionally healthy family at the center of your life is the balance between reality your life, improve the sense of life and their welfare. Involvement in your child is the crux of parenting. Not away from your responsibility as a leader andEducators.
Parent means loving-kindness that are not freedom for your child but the child respects the freedom of others, including his own. You're not a slave to the desires of your child as he is to sell not a slave. The child must be respectful of you as you are with him. Children are tested every once in awhile 'and we must adapt to the level (literally) looking directly into my eyes and tell them calmly: "I do not want to talk to you who does not speakwith me. "Do the best when you grow emotions can do is lower his voice. You stay calm and speak softly. This does not mean that you lack the strength in your voice, what you say. ... You have the power show but he speaks softly. The emotions calmed down and lets your child know That you are comfortable with their own sense of inner strength, and you do not need to know, to shout to be heard. It 's a precious instrument has also served to me by Mary MontesorriMethods. It is a staple in my life.
Implementing these simple steps, you will see drastic changes in your relationship with your child and your child's behavior. It must stick with these methods. Some of the children in addition to the authorization that is not really stored with all rigor. This is one thing to have to change the situation to change. They may be afraid, bad decisions and hurt your child in a way unknown. We all make mistakes, is theType of parenting. But the result is not as devastating as children without borders and miserable, tired, exhausted parents who are about to give in to despair. Ultimately, you are responsible for the child and child welfare. If your child is out of control, it is not safe or loved. Lovingly applied rules and limits to help, in fact, a child can be loved and cared deeply. You should not have all the answers, but children to the peopleConvictions (even if those beliefs are not always right) more people are silly. So acquire inner strength and get up. Be proud, loving, gentle, but firm parent who is a true master! This is your life and you deserve to parenthood for the joy that can truly enjoy. Why suffer if the answers are here in front of you?
In joyful parenthood, Mellisa Dormoy
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